Month: February 2017

4 Ways to Keep Your Children Thriving When Your Marriage is Struggling

Another day. Another hurdle. The same broken heart. And there were my poor babies. Smack dab in the middle of my broken heart, my occupied mind, and my wounded marriage. These innocent little souls were hurting and there was no denying it. Why? Because they couldn’t fix the hurt they were experiencing from mama’s “always sad face.” They had heard words slung and silent treatments delivered between two people they wanted to believe had hung the stars. Friend, have you ever found yourself at the end of a broken day chewing on the sour taste of FAILURE? More broken than you began because the innocent hearts of your children were being impacted in ways your mind can’t wrap by your struggling marriage. I’m writing this morning to deliver you a huge piece of sweet and tasty HOPE. Truthfully, I wish I had never had to learn these lessons and could have prevented those hard days with my kiddos. However, we walked through them and learned from them and continue to do so. I feel if this is for you, I would be doing you a huge injustice if I left you to keep chewing on Satan’s failure when I have a recipe to our Savior’s Hope! So, you ask, how is it we can keep our children thriving through seasons our marriages are struggling? It’s truly not rocket science and it doesn’t take someone special...

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The Communication Barrier

           “Come, let Us go down and there confuse their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.” Genesis 11:7(NKJV) If only he understood where I was coming from. If only I understood what he was thinking. Does this thought process ring a bell? Those moments or seasons where your marital communication literally feels like you are speaking different languages? In Genesis Chapter 11 we read that the whole earth spoke one language (v.1). Verse four says, And they said, “Come, let us build ourselves a city, and a tower whose top is in the heavens; let us make a name for ourselves, lest we be scattered abroad over the face of the whole earth.” How is your communication working out with your man lately? Here’s a tip: If you are thriving in that area, I’m celebrating with you, because in MANY cases, the root to so many marital problems is lack of communication with one another. However, don’t take it for granted. If you are wavering or deeply struggling in the communication field, I can relate dear friend. That being said, I cannot count the times the miscommunication in my marriage was a turning point in my personal  walk with Christ. I would become fixated on the lack of understanding between the hubs and I, I would idolize the problem and what I needed to do to fix it. Therefore, I would lose focus with Jesus. More...

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Even When You Feel You Are Wilting…Give Thanks

I’m not the flower type. What about you? The gal who swoons over that delivery of a fresh bouquet. Nah, not me. I’m more the “save your money and wash a load of dishes for me” type gal. But you see, I know the holidays without the flowers or even the free gift of clean dishes. So that small set of roses are so special to me that I have chosen to keep them even as they wilt. And still, I find them so beautiful. Why, you ask. Those roses were only one way my husband outdid himself showing me I am noticed. I am appreciated. I am loved. My husband and I have walked through seasons where appreciating each other was unheard of. We loved but not as the life of a rose. When there were thorns, we were more like enemies with no love in sight. The beauty of the bloom among the thorns was something we struggled to see. Giving thanks wasn’t something we practiced in seasons where we felt we were wilting. How about you? Have you ever experienced the power of giving thanks when your life is more in droop mode? Can I be honest here? This is one of my greatest struggles. I’m quick to fear defeat and slow to lift my hands for all the victories thus far. When your life seems to be wilting, it’s easy...

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When the Weary Woman Wins

“I’m done,” I told myself and my husband (oh, and God). After a petty yet surreal argument while spending the weekend visiting family, I surely believed my husband and I were too much of polar opposites to ever win at this marriage thing. Feeling weary was an understatement. How could we ever make progress when we disagreed more than the kids arguing over who got captain seats? If he chose navy blue, I chose light blue. Always. The common ground seemed invisible. I’m not sure what area of your life makes the word “weary” feel like an understatement. Dear friend, I can relate without you having to say a word. Let me encourage you with Proverbs 3:5-6 which says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (NIV) I’m living that verse, sister, and so can you! Fast forward through that nasty morning argument on the front porch of my in-laws house, regret filled words said (mainly on my end and by the conviction of Christ),and my husband being stunned by the shift of events due to one disagreement. I had allowed Satan to pin me in my weariness. Thankfully, Jesus wasn’t having it. How is he attempting to pin you down today to convince you the only way...

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5 Verses for the Weary Wife on Valentine’s Day

  Make or Break. That was our Valentine’s Day several years ago. My husband and I were like two lost puppies without a clue in the world where we were headed. Sadly, we had only been married a few months. This particular Valentine’s, we had the holiday to ourselves as grandparents pitched in to help with our kids. I wish I could tell you the arrangement was for a peaceful time of solitude to enjoy the company of one another. Instead, we made it more a time of intervention for ourselves to make the decision to keep pressing on or throw in the towel. I assume you can guess what we chose. Valentine’s Day is clearly a day to celebrate love. I personally know that just because you love someone doesn’t mean it’s always easy to celebrate. From personal experience and hearing from others, when we are weary, the holiday where love is celebrated is a day we despise social media and we avoid the Hallmark card section. (because even it shouts “Calling all happy couples”) Why? Because it hurts. The void in our relationship becomes pronounced and hard to run from. I’m sharing five verses that I firmly believe will uplift and anchor your soul. Would you care to give these words a chance? 1 Peter 4:8 (the verse that became the foundation of this blog) 2 Corinthians 12:9 Proverbs...

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